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No news is good news… right?

No news is good news… right?

When you are waiting to adopt your caseworker will give you monthly updates. When we first started out I heard from someone else going thru it that she opted out of these updates. I didn’t understand then why someone wouldn’t want to be updated regularly, any news is good news I thought. I regret saying that to her now, since I think it hurt, the waiting time really is agonizing. When I found out she had been matched up with a birth mother I said, “how long did you wait”, she replied 9 months. I said, “oh wow how fast”. Again something I wish I could take back, as I noticed her face couldn’t hide the months of pain it endured during the loooong wait.

What didn’t sink in until waiting for 4 months was that those monthly updates are just reminders of how long you have been waiting and how no progress is being made and that it may never happen.

ah ha!

Please don’t send me news of NO news Miss Caseworker.
I enjoy going day by day oblivious to the facts and statistics on how many birth mothers the agency is working with and then comparing that to the large amount of waiting families. So that by the end of the email our prospects look dim and I second guess all the choices we made when filling out the ‘openness’ form for our birth mother.

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