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A bumpy weekend

A bumpy weekend

Today I received my first negative comment on one my blogs on Adoption. It was a comment about my last post on our Profile Shown at last. It seems my quick sentence about the limitations on our openness for ethnicity and drug use was taken the wrong way and read too deeply, sooo to clarify….

When you first go to an agency you are asked a ton of questions on your level of openness to drug use, ethnicity, religion, ect.. During those initial months they ask you to check yes or no on a long list of things that anyone would find both uncomfortable and difficult decisions to make in such a short time. We are open to most bi-racial adoption as well as Caucasian (many families that go to the agency only are open to Caucasian, I do not look down on them because i an understand why they chose that path), we are however limiting ourselves on drug use because we aren’t able to deal with possible serious health conditions. Once you check that ‘bi-racial’ box the agency dives deeper into what race you are open to, and then you are required to take a class on bi-racial adoption. In this class we listened to 2 very different adoptees tell there story of being raised in a bi-racial family.

The hard part now is to wait, knowing that the decisions made then will decide what birthmother we get shown to. Once you are shown and then denied it is a joyous and bittersweet experience. It is human nature to second guess ones decisions. I am by no means a political gal, or an expert on diversity in the home….but we are adopting and every couple at the agency is looking for the same thing we are, a family.

Comments are great, both positive and negative, they show that there is a curiosity on how adoption works.

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