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its not all bunnies and rainbows

its not all bunnies and rainbows

It’s been almost 2 months since our caseworker last emailed us with news. She only talks to us when our profile is shown or if there is some event to attend. Quite depressing to hear any news but is also just as hard to hear bad news. I honestly can’t blog only happy news, there just isn’t enough happy news with adoption. We have not yet experienced the happy parts that can come with adopting. I read about and hear about the ‘good parts of adoption’. Its a way to build a family, but really is screwed up in a way. We are asking a complete stranger to call us up and give us her child, this is a woman that we most likely would never have hung out with, someone who is not in our small social bubble, a woman that i could only slightly relate to in that we both have lost a child. To go thru the steps of offering your child to a strange couple who can not have there own has to be the hardest choice. So how can i sit here and say hurry up and pick us already. It’s not my place to rush, but our hearts still wait, for a bit longer, since how long can one truly wait in limbo between the repetitive motions of the day and the unknown hope of tomorrow.

… It’s not a fair situation for anyone, and yet here we are. How can we expect a stranger to ask us to do such a life changing thing? when you pass a stranger on the street you may never know if they are contemplating something like this. It could be the lady in front of you at a grocery store, she may not even be showing yet, she could be struggling with such a difficult decision and you would never know. No one wears a sign that yells it out. If you know someone struggling, give them support and encouragement, don’t force them either way, give them time and space because its a decision that can be made and unmade at any point, but always should be in the best interest of the child that has no voice, the child that everyone involved loves even if life gets in the way.

The year 2012 is like last year, nothing more and nothing less, hopes will not be raised or lowered but hold steady until …

http://www.adoptionassociates.net/domestic/dom_waiting_families/?id=531

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