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A bumpy weekend

Today I received my first negative comment on one my blogs on Adoption. It was a comment about my last post on our Profile Shown at last. It seems my quick sentence about the limitations on our openness for ethnicity and drug use was taken the wrong way and read too deeply,

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Adoption Profile shown at last

What to do when given the news that your profile was shown twice in July. Option 1: Be happy and excited that the agency is showing our profile to birthmothers Option 2: Take it as a sign of progress and that more birthmothers are coming to the agency Option 3: Our

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Training to succeed

I'm in training right now. Training my body to go long distances...to persevere even though my mind says stop. After the 20 mile mark my head starts to say enough...the 30 mile marker mind says keep going...the 50 mile mark and it's slamming on the brakes in my head. Once

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International adoption on the decline?

I stumbled on an article about the drop in international adoption. When we first started out we first looked at international adoption because it seemed the 'sure thing'.  Now it seems that some countries are closing there doors. Or stricter rules are now in place contrary

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No news is good news… right?

When you are waiting to adopt your caseworker will give you monthly updates. When we first started out I heard from someone else going thru it that she opted out of these updates. I didn’t understand then why someone wouldn’t want to be updated regularly, any news is

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Cautiously pessimistic

With every day that goes by and every minute that ticks by you build a wall to keep yourself from getting too hopeful. Nothing is certain. There are no promises or 100% guarantee. Every day is a cautious step towards letting yourself hope and believe. I never have been on

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1..2…3…4 tell me that it’s our turn yet

Not to count but it's hard when you get a bill every month from the agency that counts for you. 4 months with our profile active. I guess looking back that seems fast. From the first day we lost our first baby to the difficult months that followed ...and finally to choosing

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oh the spinning

from the moment you go down the road towards adoption there is a feeling of loss on both parties involved. The hope is that out of the loss can spring some good for the parents and the little child in the center of it all. Some people turn to adoption as a way to just grow t

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the hardest choices don’t come easy

we all have choices to make and they all have consequences. Some are harder than others, yesterday I met two strong birthmothers that made the ultimate decision that would forever change there lives. Our agency uses the term 'woman in crisis', now I never quite understood th

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Advertisting

How much is too much information? In today's social media craze, tweet this and blog that, it seems anything goes. With adoption you walk a fine line between privacy and exposure. On the one hand you want to tell your story and get the word out - but - on the other you want

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